Searching for Birth Families and Birth Information
Depending on the age of your child at adoption, the circumstances of their adoption, and where they were adopted from (Casa Privada or ICBF), you may have a wealth of information about your child's heritage, or virtually nothing. There may be huge gaps.
One of the toughest things for me is not having any birth information and no pictures of our son younger than about 15 months. A child with NO baby pictures. How do you complete those school projects -- you know the one in Kindergarten where kids bring baby pictures and others try to guess who is who?
Often, the adoptive parents struggle with wanting to know more than what was provided them. So, the question of searching for the birth family arises. There are some pretty nice stories. Leceta Chisholm Guibault, an adoptive mother of a Colombian child born at a Casa Privada, lives in Canada and made efforts to find her son's birth family. She has published several articles about her experience. I would suggest that you take the time to read the following:
In Leceta's experience, her son was placed for adoption by a conscientious birth mother who truly desired the best for her son. But, what if your child's history is not so pleasant? Would you want to search if the birth mother was a drug addict, sleeping on the streets and had abandoned the baby in the hospital. Would you want to search if the birth family was abusive and the child was taken from the family as a result of that abuse? Would you want to search if the child was found abandoned in the garbage?
Please post your opinions in the comment section.
I am preparing some posts on the search for birth families or simply the search for birth and early childhood information. If you have searched, are searching or want to search -- I would love to hear your story. Please e-mail me at colombiansadoptcolombians @ hotmail.com. (Please remove the spaces before and after the @ symbol).